1.
Forgive: It is easier said
than done but it has to be done. When we forgive, we release ourselves from the
past. We let go of what could be and focus on what can be. If it is very hard
to forgive then think of a time when you sincerely apologized to someone, did
you hope that they would forgive? Imagine forgiving yourself at that moment. If
you can be easy on yourself, you can be easy on others. Happiness is more
important than holding grudges.
2.
Be
grateful: Grateful for what you have brings you more things to be grateful
for. It is the attitude that makes you humble and receptive of generosity of
this Universe. Everyday count 5 new things to be grateful for and see the
difference in your daily mood. Do this the first thing in the morning and set
the positive tone for the day. When things get really tough, don’t forget to be
grateful for your health, family, home, love or whatever things that you take
for granted such as your bed, shower, pillow, phone, bathroom, fan, comb,
toothbrush, literally anything, anything will do. Be happy for small things and
big things will appear.
3.
Stop
regretting: No matter how bad your decision was, there is nothing you can do
to change it now. Stop regretting things that you did in the past. This relates
to forgiving. Forgive your past. Easiest way to stop regretting is
focusing on the present moment. If you could make a fresh start, wouldn’t you? Nobody is stopping
you. In fact, starting it again is only admirable. Focusing on present is no
easy task but that is why we meditate. Meditate at least 5 minutes a day. You
can even meditate in a or bus, just not
in the car while driving . Here is a 5 minute meditation practice: Close your eyes, and
breathe deeply. If you are not home then you may not want to breathe deeply but
normal breathing can be good enough too. Breathe once and count 1, breathe
second time and count 2, continue until you reach the number 10. Once you reach
the number 10, cross one finger and repeat the process until your 5 fingers are
crossed. There you have it, a quick meditation. You can repeat the process for
2-3 times. Once finished, gently open your eyes. It is easy and can be done
anywhere.
4.
Be nice: I have
heard many times that people take advantage of your niceness so you need to
step up your game and be a b*tch. Oh, only if you knew that karma is a
real b*tch and nothing gets unnoticed –small or big. We are all individuals and
were raised in different environments so it is obvious that we will not get
along with everyone. But that does not mean you need to mean to other people.
Be nice to your enemies. Some people might be jealous of you or
resent you for whatever reason, you cannot feel the same way about them. Even
when you know that someone do not have good intentions for you, be nice to
them. That is your greatest strength. Let karma take care of them and you take
control of your own life. If you believe in Law of Attraction then by being
nice you will keep attracting nice people. Even if you attract mean people once
in a while, practice being nice to them and you will soon open up many doors.
Be nice to strangers. When you see elders or pregnant women,
offer your seat. Put a quarter in an expired meter, smile to a fellow commuter,
let a hurried driver go before your, let someone go first before your turn,
give a penny or two to the person who is standing before you in the checkout register,
give
a sincere compliment. There are many ways to give and even more ways to receive back. Feel
the magic of giving something without any expectations – ah, that moment is the
best of all.
Be
nice to yourself. You can never have compassion for others without having
compassion for yourself. Be nice to yourself. If you spill the milk, you are
not a complete idiot, you just had an accident and it is fixable. If you missed
the train, you were not walking or driving too slow, you just missed a train,
there is nothing else about it. If you made a mistake at work, you are not the
first and you won’t be the last.
5.
Be yourself,
be vulnerable: It hurts to be vulnerable, but being vulnerable is being you. You
are taking a risk that someone will hurt you but you are also opening up
universe’s channel that people will accept you for who you are. If we don’t
want to get hurt then we should never go out because where else is safest than
being home, in our bed, comfortable. However, staying home does not bring
anything new and you certainly cannot find the fun and happiness that other
people bring to you. Yes, it can mean that they may hurt you but it’s better to
get hurt in search of fun than being lonely. I promise you that when you are
ready to be yourself, you will attract those who love you for who you are. Your truth is more
beautiful than you can imagine.
6.
Stop
judging: Unless you are judge
in an actual court please do not take responsibility of such a big task. It is
normal to evaluate other people but making assumptions about them creates wall
that doesn’t really exist. Wearing short skirt does not make anyone a slut and
a being shy does not make anyone a dumb person. People can be insecure, just
like you. Give them a chance to do or be what they want and accept them for who
they are. Nobody talks behind you. If they do, it only means that you are worth
talking about, take no offense for that. Judging stops you from being happy
because you are too busy to find reasons to be sad about something.
