Taking things personally

When people talk negative about us or look down at us, it is hard not to take it personally. But what exactly are we taking personally? It is other people’s opinions and feelings. The hurtful feelings are not ours. We are taking on unnecessary burden.

When people are behaving negatively, their behavior says a lot about them and NEVER about you.

Their opinion about you or your behavior comes from their upbringings or thoughts; it has NOTHING to do with you or your behavior.

Therefore, do not take anything personally. They don’t know you the way you know yourself. Perhaps you made mistakes but you are not a mistake. Your mistakes don’t represent you. You are whole regardless of your behavior.

If we hate people who hate us, then we are reflecting on their behavior, not their true self. If we forgive those who hurt us, we are reflecting on their true self. And since we are all one source, forgiveness means being true to ourselves.

It is easier to forgive than you think. We all have said bad things about others, either to hurt them or gain approval from others. If you can forgive yourself, you can forgive those who have done the same thing.

So next time someone says something hurtful, remember to repeat, “It is not about me, it is about them. I forgive.” :-)

Why must you always trust your intuition?

Ever walk in the room full of people to feel their energy immediately? E.g.  You instantly know if the mood is light or serious. It is not by chance that we understand surroundings so quickly but thanks to our brain that absorbs data in a matter of a split second.

Our brain is always at work, even when we are asleep. Brain’s work is to protect us and it uses all the information from surroundings to give us the best possible solution under the circumstances.

This kind of power was needed in order to survive during the evolution.  

At any given point your brain is constantly gathering data from everywhere. Even a needle that fell and did not make any noise may not grab your attention but your brain has noted this action.

The human brain has about 100,000,000,000 (100 billion neurons)

Research ⁽¹⁾  shows that the brain has about 100 million MIPS (Million computer Instructions Per Second) worth of processing power while recent super-computers only has a few million MIPS worth in processor speed.

This is the reason when you feel that something is wrong even though you cannot point it out. It is the magical work of your protective brain that is giving you clues. 

When you are in a relationship with a wrong person, your brain picks up your partner’s body language and gives you cues to leave him or her alone. However, you may continue in the relationship because you have no proof except your instinct just to find out how right you were to begin with.

Although intuition is our greatest asset, we must differentiate it from fear. 

Fear based decisions do not feel right. Let’s say you are in a relationship that feels “not right”. There can be two scenarios. One is that your intuition has picked up many cues that you cannot see with your naked eyes. Second could be the fear that he or she will break your heart just like your previous partners. When you listen to your heart with intuition, following it feels good. So, you will feel rather calm when you consider leaving them for good. When you listen to your fear, you feel uneasy when you consider leaving them. Intuition feels natural. Intuition never hurts you, it makes you feel better. Fear hurts you. 

I cannot swim and every time I touch the water to learn swimming my brain senses the danger and immediately orders other body parts to struggle to come out of it. This is just a fear.

If I have a great swim instructor, let’s say someone I trust like my father, my intuition guides me to let go of the fear.

Intuition is like a muscle, it keeps getting  stronger as you practice. 

However, if you do not use your intuition it will stop coming to you: You use it or you lose it.

Of course, our brain can perceive wrong things from its surroundings and it is our job to keep things in perspective. This is where affirmations play important role. As our brain absorbs more positive thinking through affirmations it will be more intuitive than fearful.

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The above is my opinion only.   I do not dispense medical advice or prescribe the use of any technique as a form of treatment for medical problems without the advice of a physician, either directly or indirectly. In the event you use any of the information in this column for yourself, I do not accepts responsibility for your actions.

Affirmations for Forgiveness

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“A team at the University of Pisa in Italy asked people to imagine forgiving someone and then observed changes in cerebral blood flow, which signaled the parts of the brain that became more active. They found that several regions "lit up," especially areas that regulate emotional responses, moral judgments, perceptions of physical pain, and decision making. By creating this kind of neural map, researcher   s hope to learn more about how forgiveness works on both a physical and a psychological level.

Read more: http://www.oprah.com/health/How-to-Forgive-Others-Health-Benefits-of-Forgiveness-Fred-Luskin/2#ixzz1op60paby”

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I am willing to forgive

I forgive myself and others

I choose to forgive

I am able to control my emotions

As I forgive, I become free

I let go of the expectations from others

I concentrate on goodness and kindness that I experience

I create my own path

I am in control of my life

No matter who does what, I always have choice over my feelings

I respond with kindness and compassion

I have learned my lessons and accept the fact that there is nothing that I can do to change the past but my future is still in my hand and it is bright

I am easy on myself

I am easy on others

Things are acceptable even if they are not perfect

The act of forgiveness takes place in our own mind. It really has nothing to do with the other person. – Louise Hay

I let go of the past and embrace my brilliant future

I am in charge

I release myself from the negative energy that was created through the past

I love and accept myself just the way I am

I bless my choices

I become wiser every day

I forgive myself

 The Forgiveness Affirmation Video: