It is completely OK to complain about things that make you
uncomfortable.
But do you complain about everything or only things that
make you uncomfortable?
Unfortunately, for a lot of us complaining is simply a
habit than a necessity.
When we are young everything is new and we are eager to
absorb it all. In adulthood, we get used to things. We avoid new things because
they seem “difficult”, when in fact only by cracking “difficult” we can move
forward in life. That is the only way a child can learn new things.
In many cases, we have no other choice but to take on the task
on hand, no matter how difficult, and solve it. All children do just that. Only
difference is that they don’t complain, they do what they have to do without
complaining too much. Adults on the other hand, almost always complain more and
focus less on the real task.
Again, it is completely OK to complain about things that
make you uncomfortable but it is not OK to complain about most of the things.
Complaining attracts more things to complain about. If we
stop complaining about small unfortunate incidents we will avoid big unfortunate
incidents. Everything we experience is a reflection of how
we are feeling.
When a small thing goes wrong,
acknowledge it and appreciate it as it has warned you to immediately shift your
consciousness or pattern of thinking towards gratitude. Feeling gratitude for
small things will bring you more to be grateful for.
Stay away from people who complain a lot. They are like perpetrators
who want you to feel sorry for them. They don’t want solution; they simply want
your attention.
Know how to differentiate
between a genuine complain as opposed to a plea for attention.
A genuine complaint comes out of a specific situation. It makes
someone feel uncomfortable because it is out of norm.
A person who complains
constantly about everything never feels uncomfortable about what he or she went
through because it is not out of norm, it is something that they always feel.
It is out of a habit, not out of a situation.
Be a sympathetic ear to those
who have genuine complaints. Sometimes all they need is a good listener so that
they can get it off their chest.
However, stay away from constant
complainers. They will get you into the same bad habit. Make some excuses to
avoid them. Shift your focus towards gratitude and love to attract happy
people.
Remember that every moment in
your life is too precious to please others. Live your life to the fullest. If
you don’t like something change it, if you can’t change it then accept it and
get over it.
Love yourself regardless of a
situation. Situations go and come, love is forever…
