Annoying Coworkers!!

The annoying coworkers!!

Yes they are not just mythical creatures, they are the real deal.  You have to face them, no matter where you go. You see, annoying coworkers are same everywhere but somehow we uniquely feel victimized.  Let’s be real, as long as you work in this real world, you will have them.

Jeez, does that mean we have to be annoyed all the time. Well, as everything in life is made of choices, you have a choice either be annoyed or releasing the pattern of being annoyed.

The truth is that everybody in the world is annoying. Yes including you and me. Only difference is that some annoyance can be tolerated and some cannot.

Your children, for example, are in fact very annoying – no? Maybe not to you but there annoyance is tolerable and even appreciated by you. On the other hand, the constantly barking next door dog is annoying and it is unacceptable.

A lot of our family members are annoying and we get annoyed by them but we still want to live with them because we love them.

Annoying coworkers are tolerated but not by choice. However I believe that they can be tolerated if you change your perspective.

First, remember that there is nobody with whom you can get along perfectly. Your spouse/partner probably has some habit that you hate but you tolerate it because there are other traits that you admire more.

Similarly, think of things that you actually appreciate about your annoying coworkers. You may hate your coworker for always picking his nose (gross… I know) but he may be a good worker who always comes in early.

Second, remember that everybody was born great but then life happened. Not everybody was raised the way you did. Their cultures, traditions, and acceptable and unacceptable habits are different that yours. Respect the difference even if you hate it.

If you cannot stand the person then talk to them directly. Explain them that they are a wonderful person but their particular habit makes it hard for you to completely appreciate them. Be prepared to get some backfire if the person you are dealing with is not only annoying but also has not completely matured as an adult. Or, just play this scenario in your head and speak to their higher self. You know that the dust on the gold does not make it less valuable, all you have to do is remove the dust. Unfortunately, you can only remove your own dusts. Clean that dusts from your eyes and look at that annoying coworker with neutrality. I say neutrality because although looking at them with love can help tremendously, it is almost impossible to love someone suddenly when you hate them or their habits.

If you can, change your seats or put a calendar between them and you. If you can complain anonymously to your HR department then you should. E.g. listening to radio loud or keep spitting in the trash can are unacceptable habits.

Remember that being annoying is different than being unprofessional. No unprofessional act should be tolerated as it can be a liability to your company.

Repeat the following affirmations to get along with all of your coworkers:

My coworkers are easy to get along with

My work place is productive and fun

All my coworkers are professional and act in professional manner

I enjoy my workplace

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My friends, every moment matters and this is the moment when you have decided that you do not have to work with people who do not appreciate you. But this is also a moment to remember that you have attracted this situation. What sort of feelings did you emit to attract this kind of coworker? This is not your fault but by taking the responsibility for attracting things in your life, you take the control to change them.

This is the moment to take control in your work space. Your work space is divine because it has YOU in it. You feel grateful to come to work every day. You receive fair compensation for what you do. You have probably made some amazing friends in this place. You are thrilled to have a job that requires your services. You are needed. This place is better because of you. It is same with your coworkers. You may not be able to see or feel it. However, at some point they were thrilled to have this job but now it is just a routine for them. More than doing what they love they do their job because if they don’t, they will get fired. The fear or ego has replaced the excitement and love for this divine place. But don’t feel sad. There is nothing you can do about their perspective. They are in control of their lives and you are of your own.

Think good things about your job. May it be having your own voicemail or working in the loving neighborhood. Maybe it is the convenience from home or the pay check. Maybe it is one of your coworker or the satisfaction you receive from giving your services.

Do not do lousy job because nobody is appreciating it. Remember that you are always giving out feelings that will attract more of it. So give out feelings that someone IS appreciating your work. Your work is always recognized positively. In the meetings you are prepared, you are the star. People come to you not because they want your help but because they want to learn from you. How can you be such so happy, positive and productive in the depressing environment? Because you can. Because you made a choice.  Because you are in control of your own life, not your coworkers. Soon you will find that you will attract people of your own caliber. And even if you don’t, you know you that nothing and nobody can stop you from living every moment to the fullest and you certainly know how ;).